Carmen’s 10th story about wrestling and boxing by RNMEXGYM@aol.com please email me questions and comments. I am not looking for opponents!! Brief informative life reflections of my fighting life Part 10 A few items to go through first. My last story generated over 8,000 emails so far. I have never experienced an onslaught such like this in my inbox. I estimate that 95% were sweet, thoughtful, complimentary, asked good questions,etc. The remainder were: perverted, sick, gross, mean and actually racist and hurtful. Takes all kinds I suppose. Please understand I cannot respond to everyone and respond to what I call “the inner circle” of about 40 people and some random one’s as well. I thank everyone for writing and I do read them ALL. Next, my measurements is a popular question so here ya go, oh, and these are AFTER a heavy lifting workout not my “walk around” stats. The number in the parenthesis is what I want to have- yes I want to be smaller! Height: 5’4 Weight: 140 Dress size: 4-6 Shoes:7 Hair: Brunnete Eyes : Brown Neck : 14 inches – this helps a lot in boxing as it acts as a shock absorber Biceps : 15.1 inches (13’s) Forearms : 11 inches Chest : 38 inches D cup-all natural Waist : 28 inches (27) Hips : 35 inches Thighs : 23 inches Calves : 15 inches (14) Abs: deep, defined 8 pak….not 6 but 8 PAGE 2 Best Lifts: Note, none of these are recent as I do not lift for “max” anymore. These numbers are all from “back in the day” when I was a hardcore gymnast and built like a bodybuilder. Would never try these things now as a fighter whose goal is to LOSE mass! Bench: 260 1 rep Dumbell curl: 65 each arm 3 reps each. Was able to do 35lb forever Barbell curl: 120 for 3 reps Dead Lift: 380 Squat:400 I have sent pics to many of you, in confidence, and have shared personal thoughts and answered your questions too. I do like to learn more about the people who write to me, i.e., age, location, gender, occupation, etc. It is fun sharing so feel free to do so. Next, based on all the emails I have received I want to address the most common questions. Therefore, this will NOT be a fighting story and instead a “get to know Carmen better” story since so many ask. I will write a story about my last boxing match on 10/18/09, vs a guy who is a bartender at a local Italian restaurant Richard that we frequent and he set up the fight and that will be forthcoming. So here ya go guys: A. How does it feel to knock someone unconscious- Because I have done it via choking someone out in wrestling and punching one out with my gloves this will be a two part answer. Overall the experience is overwhelming spectacular- to put it bluntly. B. Via Wrestling- What can I say about getting someone in a choke hold knowing that they will soon be under my TOTAL control and unconscious? Awesome, awesome awesome!. I can feel them at first trying to remove themselves from that hold by trying to pull my forearm off their throat and putting their chin on their chest then by PAGE 3 punching my arms and legs and even trying to punch my face which would be a terrible mistake of course and quickly realizing they cannot do a damn thing and are trapped. Then I can feel their squirming getting less and less when they realize something terrible is happening and (because I have been choked out myself 2x) I know their world is becoming darker and darker and they think they are going to die as it is a horrible feeling when your brain has no oxygen and you feel that vice grip on your throat. Within seconds I feel their bodies go limp and what was once a muscular or strong opponent is now a useless blob of humanity in my clutches. Once I feel that, I release them and watch them go from athlete to blob and as their eyes flitter open to baby and back again to athlete. The end results vary by who is being choked out and it is all over the board the results of this. Some have cried and others sobbed, there is a huge difference between the two, some have stayed in that position disoriented and frightened for 5 minutes realizing what happened and trying to wrap their minds around where they were and what happened, others have become so submissive it was disappointing to watch. Meaning having an adult who I barely know sometimes beg and plead and do weird things is unpleasant. I had this one gymnast from another school who I choked out after a meet in New Orleans in her hotel room, this is another trained athlete mind you, after she woke up and realized what happened she started kissing my feet telling me how strong I was and wanted to give me her boyfriend and even she wanted to “be with me” the remaining two days in New Orleans- it was creepy to be honest. She bought me gifts the next day and wanted to take my picture with her and flex for her……messed up stuff! Others took it like they should, meaning as warriors/fighters/athletes and it is after all just a loss and not the end of the world. Some I have taken sexually and some have taken (asked of course) taken me, ha ha. It is a rewarding experience either way to have your opponent breathing easy and accepting they were just knocked unconscious by a better athlete as they “study” my body knowing what I just did and how that affects their lives forever. Seeing another strong athlete walk around the mat after being knocked out as they doubt their own abilities or stare in my PAGE 4 eyes is pretty exciting. I have knocked out more women then men but have a lot of men who I choked out too. I was trained by the best, my X hubby Jack, and it easy for me to do at this point. As you all know I have choked out Richard, my handsome and wonderful husband, several times. Yes, choking out guys is a different dynamic, I cannot deny that. Sometimes sexual for me I admit, often times sexual for them. I could probably write 20 pages detailing those stories, hahaha. I remember one I recount now. I wrestled this guy from work, a lab tech, who over time asked me to fight him since he wrestled in High School years before. Very cute guy so I figured sure why not. His stamina was not there even though his strength was so after a few minutes I was able to get on his back and put him in the choke hold I new would end the fight end end his asking me ever again to fight. I choked him out and after I felt him go limp I stayed on his back until he awoke and talked to him softly in his ear and explained what happened. Suddenly, I felt him breathing hard and he did a few dry humps on the mat and exploded more cum then I have ever seen up to that point. It was oozing out of the top of the shorts and on to the mat. It was really very hot as his body was great. After he shot his huge load, I still maintained my position on his back and rolled off moments after and he stayed in that position out of humiliation. Meantime, I NEEDED some relief myself and kicked him a few times on his side and told him side and after a while he sat up, red faced and ate me out. It was awkward afterwards for sure, but “it is was it is” as they now say. C.Via boxing- I have far fewer this way but it is growing. These kinds of knockouts are acute. Not the slow and methodical choke out but a sharp, fast and acute punch. Also, as opposed to a choke out where I can not see their eyes here in boxing I see everything. I enjoy boxing a LOT and have had my pro card for 2 months. I really really enjoy boxing. Hearing the air escape from my opponents body as I dig my hooks into their well trained abs or seeing them drop on to the canvas unconscious seriously gets me aroused many times- seeing them in their recovery period as the pain that is inching through their PAGE 5 bodies and seeing that defeated look in their faces and thenlooking at me and staring at my sweaty muscular body is again a major turn on for me! D.Do I like fighting men or women better? Have had more fun fighting women but I just like competition. The women I have fought are generally more skilled and have more fire inside them and hate losing as much as I do. Some of them men are like that too but more guys have shitty stamina and their erections get in the way plus when they lose they are a mess in sooooo many fucking ways. So I suppose the answer is it depends on the person, not the gender. E. Am I dominant. The short answer is NO I am not. Can I be? Yeah sure but I am not a “dom” and do not get off in my daily life acting like that. Like I always say, I do not have a temper and it takes a LOT to get me angry. I wear the pants, as it were, in my house that’s for sure, but I am not a pushy in your face beating on my husband dom. Nothing likethat at all. I have gone through some very brief periods in my married life with Richard where I was beating him up and especially after the one boxing match we had where I really hurt the man and I was annoyed with him that he forced me into boxing him and in turn annoyed with myself that I was so brutal with him in the ring with the man I love to death that I am sure he thought I was acting “dominant” afterwards in my attitude and making him do things around the house naked in punishment. However, after speaking about it with him (since he spent 6 days off from work due to the terrible beating I gave him and the associated swelling and black and blue eyes, etc) it was agreed it was more ME being pissed at ME for being so rough with him then getting off on being some “dom” maniac. Ha ha anyway, I am not nor do I want to be, dom! I am sure some people may think I am. PAGE 6 F.My body- I was always focused on my body since even at a young age others have always been focused on it with their comments, questions and staring so I suppose how can’t I be? The gymnastics training developed lot’s of muscles and I am blessed with my D cups so you can see the attraction by guys and others. I have been losing bulk in exchange for more power since boxing has become a major sport for me. I dress down at work as I wear scrubs almost everyday but outside of work I do manage to strut my stuff, ha ha, around a fair amount. If ya got….flaunt it as they say. I love being strong, love being stopped and asked questions and just enjoy looking the way I do. I do love my body….almost as much as Richard does, ha ha. G. Have I ever been with a woman- I was taken aback the first dozen or so times I was asked that online but am used to it now. Yes, 7 times. I am not into women per se but b/c of what I look like and how much I love my own body and the number of times over the years I have been solicited by women I have had a few, ha ha or 7! One early on, 3 in college and the rest very recent. I suppose I am dom in those cases as I am in control even though I have ONLY been with other strong women. The last two were women I beatup and that I admit was a trip and a half. Having a lady that I just beatup, who is also fit and a brave warrior and taking her and having her do all the things I want out of respect and maybe some fear is very cool. Not that I plan on doing it again but if it happens I am OK with it. H. How does it feel knowing I can beat every up? That is a common but funny question. First of all I can NOT beat everyone of course!! To think that is crazy. Plus I do not consciously think, as I am talking to someone, oh wow I can kick his/her ass and break their nose. Sorry not me. Do I think about or picture myself punching the person I am talking to in the jaw or stomach? Ha ha , well, honestly sometimes but few and far between. Do my girlfriends egg me on about this type of thing? Ex:I have had girlfriends come over to me at various places as some guy is trying hard to pick me up and whisper “Car, just punch PAGE 7 his fucking lights out” and walk away laughing as I am stuck with him. Long story short……I do not think about this often. I. How often do I train- a minimum of 5 days a week ideally. Due to work and taking extra shifts for whatever reason that is reduced. I lift light weights and not very much as my focus is boxing I spend 90% of my time doing that. I certainly do NOT want or need any more muscle per se. J. My job- Love it to death- period. Only thing I love more is Richard and my 2 kids. K.- Who sends me more emails, men or women? Very close but it would be men. Most are very nice but of course some odd balls. Yes, I exchange my pic all the time and even send it out to a select grup of people before they send me theirs. I LOATHE sending my pictures and then being told by the recipient they did not receive them when I KNOW they were attached- rare but happens and I cannot for the life of me understand their motivation. The women who wrte ask me marriage advise, fighting advise and ask a lot of questions about my physique, sometimes giving me advise about my biggest personality flaw, cheating on my hsband…… what can I say besides I appreciate them trying L.- Cheating on my husband- Have to address this so might as well now- I have and do and may continue this. I know it is wrong on every level but it has happened and will in the future based on my physique and the fact that I around men a lot and my weakness! I love Richard with every fiber of my body, he sexually, emotionally and intellectually excites me but……..sometimes I need more or different and I go for it. Sorry, just being honest. No, Richard is not allowed to have the same weakness and he knows what would happen WHEN I find out so let’s not go there on this one. I do not like myself afterwards but cannot deny it happened. PAGE 8 M. Hate- No, I do not “hate” my opponent even though I fight like I do. Very little hate in me. N.What is the worst I ever beat anyone in the ring. This answer may surprise you but it was my husband. I really beat him terribly I am sad to say. We boxed, he is not trained, I knew it was going to end badly for him and I got carried away. I kept him “upright” longer then I could have and for lck of a better word I punished him to make a point but could have and should have NOT beat him so badly- end of story. Remember, I LOVE my husband and he loves me back. I just had to prove who wears the pants, who is stronger and a better fighter ONCE and forever and hopefully will never re-visit that scenario again. O.- Sex questions- yes I get them, what a shock, right? OK here ya go- yes, I have had 2 guys at a time 8x in my life, no never been with more then one woman at a time, yes I love sex, ha ha, yes on the beach of course I went to college and live in California my god yes, ha ha, yes I did it in the hospital several times, never with a male bodybuilder, yes with a black man, rough sex is OK at times, not big into toys but VERY big into role playing. I allow my husband to be the “man” very often as I know the dynamics of our relationship has changed a lot over the past 2 years due to the choking out and boxing beating he suffered. We use or I should say I use different outfits and so on- do not want to get that personal on here but suffice it to say that role playing is awesome. This answers most of the questions that have been asked and I am happy to answer them like this in this forum as honestly as possible. As I said, my next story will be about my recent boxing match vs the bartender. Love Carmen